Solution+Research


 * 1. Marriage Counseling**

//__2. Knowing the keys to a successful marriag__//

// Gottman, John. "Keys To A Successful Marriage/Relationship, Counseling Services, UW-Eau Claire." University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire. UW-Eau Claire and the Board of Regents of the University of Wisconsin System, 18 June 2010. Web. 11 Nov. 2011. . //


 * // Couples should be kind to each other. //
 * // They should frequently express love and appreciation //
 * // One partner is paying attention to the others bid for attention. //
 * // Gentleness with each other. //
 * // Should spend time in conversation together, and there should be interest in the conversation. //
 * // They are influenced by there partner. //
 * // You should pay attention to the positive things your partners does (Say "thank you!") and realize that couples in a happy marriage respond to the calls for attention 96% of the time. //
 * // You should know yourself and your partner reasonably well. //
 * // You honor the dreams of your partner //
 * // Keep a positive sense of humor in the relationship //
 * // There is teamwork and a collection of shared goals. //
 * // There is good problem solving skills and you know how to resolve conflict in different situations //
 * // Romance continues through the entire relationship. //
 * //You don't want to have contempt for your partner.//

// "A LifeCare ® Guide: Tips for a Healthy Marriage." . U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Lifecare, 2004. Web. 11 Nov. 2011. . //


 * //Communicate Effectively//
 * //Most important key//
 * //LISTEN!//
 * //Don't be judgmental.//
 * //Be truthful and honest//
 * //Make time for each other//
 * //Make time to communicate and for meaningful conversation.//
 * //Make time to communicate at a time and place that is not distracting.//
 * //When you fight, fight fair//
 * //Realize you wont be able to always agree//
 * //Resolve conflict well and consider the emotions of those around you//
 * //Communicate to solve problems//
 * //Commit to the relationship//
 * //Make sure that this relationship is a priority in life.//
 * //Give the relationship time and effort//
 * //Express Appreciation//
 * //"Thank you!"//
 * //Sense of humor//
 * //Laugh with your partner//
 * //Laugh at yourself//
 * //This relieves stress and helps stop tension//
 * //Forgive//
 * //People make mistakes, sometimes accidents, be forgiving.//
 * //Keep romance alive//
 * //Do something romantic, even something little, once in a while.//
 * //Take time to be with yourself//
 * //You don't have to spend every second with your partner, make time for yourself!//
 * //If you're having marital problems, SEEK HELP!//

Jacobson, Neil S., and Micheal E. Addis. //Research on Couples and Couple Therapy What Do We Know? Where Are We Going?// The American Psychological Association. PDF.


 * **Behavioral Couples Therapy is the closest they have come to a treatment.**
 * Treatments are helping some couples, but it doesn't always work
 * People who are unhappy and unwilling usually find little results in therapy
 * Younger couples are easier to treat
 * There is about a 50% success rate or happily married couples after therapy
 * There isn't much known about the long term affects of couple therapy.
 * On one study of the long term affects, though, there is a lower divorce rate.
 * Depending on the type of therapy, there is a 3%-38% rate of divorce.
 * There is a lower success rate in couples that are majorly distressed.
 * When there is a lower romantic status in a couple there is less of a chance of success
 * When there is respect towards gender roles then couples generally have a lower divorce rate.
 * When an individual has their own problems then there is a lower success rate.
 * Depression also is something that causes high divorce rates.
 * Successfully treated couples are more emotionally connected with their partner.
 * Characteristics of the people involved can affect the approach a counselor takes.